Are You Meeting Your Needs?
I don't think I need to remind you what a turbulent time the Eclipse window was! I know we're all feeling it in our own way, as there's been no escaping it!
This time of year heading into winter, we are naturally encouraged to slow down, withdraw, reflect, let go.
The upcoming New Moon in Scorpio on the 13th, also invites introspection, rebirth, and renewal.
I had an extra window of time open up where I was delighted to be able to focus on the things I'd like to do for my passion (business), but little did I know this space opened up for much needed quiet time, reflection, deeper releasing and REST.
Last month was very deep in highlighting old patterns of behaviour we've still been repeating or falling back into.
Deeper wounds that still keep our hearts closed from believing we are worthy of change and fulfilling our dreams.
Highlighting where there is imbalance in our lives.
Where might we be over giving/over stretching ourselves?
Where might we need to pull back a little?
Where are our needs not being met?
Are WE meeting our OWN needs? 🧡
One very basic and important need as a human being, is to feel seen and heard.
Growing up, we most likely didn't feel seen or heard by the very people/person we most want to feel seen, heard and validated by…our parents (parent/caregiver).
And so, we can spend our whole lives trying to seek it from everyone else we meet.
Unfortunately, we also attract our parents all over again, because of the wounding we carry.
What we really need, is to go in and validate ourselves.
We don't realise we're so busy trying to get other people to SEE us, to listen to us, and accept us, that we're not actually doing that for ourselves.
And the frustration (and probably anger) grows, until we can go in and meet our OWN needs.
It's a very unconscious pattern of behaviour until we're able to observe ourselves and truly see it.
Not only do we have to be able to meet our own needs, but we also have to be able to let go. To stop trying to get our needs met by the people who simply don't have it within themselves to fulfil that role.
It's not an easy journey, but incredibly freeing when you can let go and see it from another perspective.
It's not that it's not painful, but it's never personal (even though it feels like it).
The person/people you may have been trying so hard to be seen by, are just too shut down by their own wounds and trauma.
If you want to feel SEEN and HEARD, make sure you're fully acknowledging yourself first and when it comes to friends and family, be discerning.
Share with those that will meet your needs and allow you to feel seen and heard.
Observe where you feel depleted and where you feel balanced.
We don't have to go into judgement about it, but we must always honour ourselves and our own needs.
When we don't, we can end up feeling exhausted, depleted, frustrated, angry, sad, alone, abandoned, not important, rejected…..
But ultimately, we're frustrated with ourselves.
We're still in separation from ourselves.
We've not prioritised ourselves.
I SEE YOU!
Do you see yourself?
Can you LOVE the YOU that doesn’t feel seen and heard?
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And remember to look in the mirror everyday and tell yourself out loud,
“I LOVE YOU, ME!”
